Saturday, April 23, 2011

We're having a boy!

I am now 17 weeks pregnant.  Yesterday, my husband and I went to our ultrasound appointment and found out that our baby is a boy!  So, that makes 4 boys and 1 girl now for our family.  We were shocked silly.  Yes, of course we weren't truly shocked, but we did laugh a lot!  Another boy?!!  So much for having a break with birth planning, right?!  No, we are very happy about our little guy.  He even has a name:  Silas Martin Reeves.  He is a sweetie, about 6 ounces, and quite a wiggle worm.  We absolutely love him!! 

So, now for planning Silas' bubble wrapped birth. . .

We are hoping to move to MI in a couple months.  By then, I will be about 6 months along.  I spoke to our midwife there, and she gave me the name of a CNM who works in a birthing center there.  I will speak to her today.  The big hospital connected to Children's Hospital of Michigan says they offer water birth with midwives as well.  This hospital also happens to be one of the best in the country for hemophilia.  I will definitely be looking into that! 

The problem with homebirth is getting the cord blood tested.  Our midwife can draw it, and Matt could run it to a hospital lab to be tested, but they can't accept it without a prescription.  We would have to find someone who would write a prescription for us, and a 24 hour lab that would accept it from my husband/midwife. 

What we are looking for in a birth is:
  • a totally hands-off approach
  • water birth
  • cord blood testing
  • gentle baby care afterwards (ZERO separation, no heel prick, no vit k injection, etc.)
Obviously, if we could work out the cord blood testing, homebirth would be great.  If not, we have to find the most gentle hospital/birth center situation.  Getting the cord blood tested is very important because if we don't get it done, then we have to take our newborn in for a blood draw.  That is miserable torture for a baby, as any hemo parent knows! 

It will all work out.  I will not fear.  Although, I know I will have my moments. 

~Silas, we will make the safest birth for you, sweetie.  We love you so much!~

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Chicken Soup to Make You Feel Better

The first step we can do to have a safe birth is taking good care of ourselves during pregnancy.  Sometimes, no matter how healthy we live, we get sick!  When my family gets sick, I make this Chicken soup.  Even the aroma in the air while it's cooking makes me feel better!

INGREDIENTS  (These change with every pot of Chicken Soup I make.):

1 whole chicken

water (just enough to cover chicken in pot)

Carrots (sliced)

Potatoes (cubed)

Yellow Onions (chopped)

Green Onions (snipped)

Whole Head of Garlic (remove cloves from skin and chop with food chopper)

Celery (including leafy part) cut 1/2 inch thick

Kale (snipped)

Spinach (snipped)

Fresh Herbs:
-Oregano (snip leaves)
-Rosemary (leaves)
-Basil (snip leaves)
-Thyme (leaves)
-Parsley (snipped)

2 or 3 boxes of chicken broth (no msg, only good ingredients) *never add water, only add broth!!

Salt (if needed, to taste)

Coarse Pepper


RECIPE:

Boil the Chicken until it starts to fall apart. Remove bones and skin from meat. Personally, I don't use the guts and neck in the bag farther than letting them help flavor the broth.) Get as much fat off the top of the broth as possible. Strain broth, and put back in pot. Cut up Chicken, and add to broth. Add remaining ingredients to taste, and let it cook on low heat for a long time. The whole house will smell sooo good!!

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

If I ever needed a c-section. . .

This is one of the most beautiful birth videos I've ever seen, and it's a c-section!  This hospital in the UK has made a great effort in making a cesarean birth as gentle and family oriented as possible.  The baby is handled so gently, they delay cord clamping/cutting, and there is no separation from mother until she has to be moved to the recovery bed.  Even then, there is no separation from father.  If I ever needed a c-section, I would insist it be handled like this one! 

Friday, April 1, 2011

"Oh, I don't care what we're having, just as long as he/she is healthy. . . "

It's funny to hear this statement now that I know our baby has a 50% chance of inheriting my mutated gene, and either having or carrying severe hemophilia a.  I don't say the above statement anymore.  Now, it's like this, "I do care what we're having because knowing we are having a boy or a girl greatly effects our birth plans.  Matt and I choose to find out the gender to best plan the safest most appropriate birth.  I want a healthy birth, but I want the baby exactly how God hade him/her whether that means 'healthy' or 'hemophiliac' or any other genetic disorder.   As far as wanting a girl or boy more. . . no.  I want the baby we have to have the safest birth possible.  I wouldn't change a thing about him/her."  Although, I know I am thinking too much into the traditional statement for which this post is named, this was on my heart, and BWB is the best place for me to share it.  Now, off I go to eat a healthy breakfast for my sweet little one.  <3

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Hemophilia Awareness Month Daily Facts (posted thoughout March on my facebook profile page)

1. Hemophilia is an X chromosome genetic mutation. That's why girls are carriers. We have another X to make up for the affected X. (There are exceptions, but it's complicated) Boys don't. So, a mom that carries the gene (ie: me!) has a 50% chance of passing on the gene with every pregnancy. Dads who have hemophilia will never pass it on to their sons since their sons get their Y chromosome. However, all their daughters will be carriers since they get his X chromosome, and the affected X is the only one he has to offer.

2. It is very nice for a hemophilia mom to spend the evening at the salon (via birthday money) after an exhausting day at clinic with all the children. . . ;o)

3. The most common hemophilia gene mutation is "22 inversion". All the right information is there, but inverted in a section of the X chromosome. Therefore, the information that is there cannot communicate to get the job done (in this case: make factor 8!). This is the gene mutation in our family.


4.  When you have a child with hemophilia, everyone is affected. We are not just a family of 7 with 2 hemophiliac boys. Our family has hemophilia. We may not all have it in our bodies, but we have it in our family, and we deal with it everyday. We are all in this together! :o)


5. When my Dad was a young boy in the 1940s and 1950s, most hemophiliacs didn't make it through their teen years because the only treatment was whole blood transfusions. Their was no preventative treatments. The few that did survive, suffered major bodily harm from their bleeds, and their bodies are mangled, but they're probably some of the strongest men you'll ever meet. The most impacting thing for me is to hear these men speak of the different life their grandsons have now that they have factor. (Based on the film,"An Unexpected Life. Living with Hemophilia." Presented by the Alta Bates Summit HTC)

6. To make a clot, our bodies make a platelet plug, then a fibrin clot to hold it all together. Hemophiliacs make the platelet plug, but not the fibrin clot. With little cuts and scrapes, the platelet plug is sufficient, but sometimes not when they are in the mouth. Saliva breaks down the platelet plug, and makes a lot of trouble! So, there is a liquid medicine called "Amicar" that is available to help. Amicar prevents the saliva from breaking up the platelet plug. Sometimes, this is so effective, factor is not needed! Yay for Amicar!!! :o)

7. What are the leading causes of bleeds for a little hemophiliac during childbirth? forceps, vacuum, internal monitor

8. How does factor work during a joint bleed? Blood starts entering the joint capsule. It fills up with blood. The factor helps the bleeding stop. Digestive enzymes eat away the blood, but also eat away at the cartilage and bone. Once a joint has had a bleed, it will always be more susceptible to getting more bleeds.

9. One of the greatest threats to hemophiliacs today is an inhibitor. An inhibitor is when their body starts rejecting the factor it needs so badly. When this happens to a factor 8 deficient person (hemophilia A), they are treated with factor 7 until the inhibitor is resolved. Clotting factors work like dominoes, and factor 7 is a good plan b for factor 8 deficient hemophiliacs because it allows clotting to skip a step. It is not easy. You have to infuse the factor 7 a lot more often than factor 8. Sometimes it takes a very long time for an inhibitor to go away.

10. Did you know that the worst position to give birth is lying on your back*? This position reduces the size of the pelvis by up to 30%!! This is especially dangerous for babies with hemophilia since that would threaten the use of vacuum or forceps if the baby appeared to be "stuck", and those interventions are the leading cause of headbleeds for newborns with hemophilia. Get off your backs, ladies! ♥
*There are exceptions to this.  Sometimes, a woman's pelvis is shaped in a way that consistently causes back labor, and lying on her back is the only way to get the baby to turn.

11. Carriers of hemophilia have varying factor levels. Sometimes their factor level is well within the normal range. Sometimes it is the low end of normal. Sometimes it is so low they qualify as mild hemophiliacs. Rarely, it is low enough to qualify them as severe hemophiliacs. I thought this wasn't possible until I met a girl with severe hemophilia. The explanation for this is in how the chromosomes split and multiply soon after conception. Another interesting fact is that carriers typically have elevated factor levels while nursing or pregnant. Since I have been nursing and/or pregnant for the last 8 years, I don't know what my regular factor level is. When I was tested while nursing Eli and again while pregnant with Malakai, it was 90% (within normal range). When I was in my 3rd trimester with Silas, it was 190% (high end of normal).  Ana was tested and her level was 44%.  Normal factor level is anywhere within 40%-200%.  I can tell you that I used to bruise a lot more than I do now!

12. When a person is having a bleed it feels like burning, swelling, sharp pain, or bubbles/tingling. Other descriptions include: "when a joint swells up with blood it is like having cement in there causing you not to be able to move"

13. It is super fun to launch caps off of empty syringes after prophy. . . ;o)

14. When you have a child with hemophilia, you no longer take it for granted when you actually can just "kiss it and make it all better" with a non hemo child or a minor injury with a hemo child. ♥

15.  "Hemophilia is a genetic bleeding disorder that prevents the blood from clotting normally. The main symptom is uncontrolled, often spontaneous bleeding. Internal bleeding into the joints can result in pain, swelling, and, if left untreated, can cause permanent damage.'  -Jennifer Grizzard Smith

Sunday, March 27, 2011

Why I Love Water Birth: part 2

Before Ana could start walking, we were looking at two happy pink lines again!  We had been in IL for Isaiah's birth, MI for Ana's birth, and now we were in CA looking for a midwife.  We couldn't possibly have more than one baby in any state, could we?  We found the best midwife for us, and began planning another home water birth. 

I knew I was in labor at about 1:30am.  I labored in bed for a while on my side.  I got on my knees and leaned over a chair, all the time moaning through contractions.  By now, Isaiah was about 1 month from being 4, and Ana was about 2 months from being 2.  I had practiced these birth noises with them so they wouldn't be scared when the time came.  It worked.  They weren't scared at all.  I had nice breaks between contractions too, which really helped.  Isaiah wanted to help me so badly, but kept getting in people's way.  So, I asked him if he could hug me through my contractions.  He was my doula for this birth!   
The pushing stage for this birth was way more intense than it had been with Ana's birth.  For the first time during active labor, I called out to God, thanked Him for this baby, and that "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" (Phil 4:13).  When it was time to push, I pushed like I had never pushed before.  His head came out.  There was a small break before the next contraction (seemed like forever!).  Then, I was pushing again.  He was so huge that I thought he was completely out when he was only out to his waist!  Elijah was 10lbs 14oz!  I couldn't believe it!  His birth was so gentle, and he was a beautiful chubby newborn.  Four months later, we found out he had severe hemophilia.  I am so thankful that we had such a gentle birth for him.  I believe the water birth was a major reason why he was so big and did not have any bleeds or bruising, and I did not tear at all. 

By the time we were expecting our fourth little one, we knew that I was a carrier of hemophilia.  I have written all these stories before, and have recently posted the story of "Our Journey".  Please read it to get the full story of how we began birth planning with the knowledge of hemophilia being a possiblility.  We moved from CA to NY when I was 6 months pregnant.  I found a midwife, and we started planning a homebirth with the goal of drawing cord blood and transporting the specimen from home to a lab.  That plan did not work out.  We had to consider a hospital birth.  I met with the perinataltologist.  I explained to her that water birth was the safest, most gentle way I knew how to birth, our large hemophiliac baby had been born in water at home with no problems at all, and I insisted that our fourth baby's birth was just as gentle.  Malakai was the first water birth ever for this hospital.  His birth was so gentle that his water never broke until his shoulders were born. 

I know I've shared all these stories in length before, but I wanted to give a fresh review to illustrate where I'm coming from with water birth.  Based on my experience, I love water birth because:
  • It calms my pain and discomfort.
  • It relaxes my body.
  • It softens my perineum, and helps me not tear.
  • Because I am so relaxed, I can get in the best possible position for my pelvis to be at maximum size.
  • I can easily move to different positions at will.
  • Because I am so relaxed, my whole body opens to birth my baby as gently as possible.
  • It gives me my own space, and I feel safe. 
  • Being in the water helps me feel covered, and I don't feel so exposed and vulnerable.
I am now 13 1/2 weeks pregnant with our fifth baby.  Malakai is 16 months old, Eli is 3, Ana is 5, and Isaiah is 7.  In about 5 weeks we will find out if this baby is a boy or a girl.  There is no question that we will be planning another water birth.  We hope to have a home birth, but if we must consider a hospital, we will plan a water birth there.  Hemophilia babies need a gentle birth even more than other babies do, and I am so thankful that we already practiced such a gentle way of birthing even before we knew hemophilia was a part of our lives.

Why I Love Water Birth: part 1

I first heard of water birth when I was a teenager.  My first thought was "That's crazy!  Won't the baby drown?!".  I really didn't think of it much more until I was married and we were expecting our firstborn.  The first midwife we interviewed told us that she almost exclusively did water births.  She told us that water birth was a lot gentler on both the baby and the mom.  "For the baby, the difference is like waking up at your own leisure on a Saturday morning vs. being woken up with an alarm clock on Monday morning."  The baby is born from warm fluid into warm fluid, and is gently lifted up to the air, and the baby is not stimulated to breathe until he/she comes in contact with the air.  The warm water helps mom relax, and her body opens up more.  The warm water is also great pain relief, and allows the mom to move to different positions effortlessly.  We were impressed with all the benefits she shared with us, and decided to go with a water birth.

Our first birth was at home.  My husband (Matt) and I were in the birth pool together.  Isaiah was crowning for an hour.  Our midwife kept close watch on his heart rate and skin color which was fine, and Matt played with his hair.  After 4 hours of pushing, Isaiah was born into his daddy's hands.  Matt passed him to me, and I lifted him up out of the water.  He was big!  9lbs 8oz, broad shoulders and big chest.  No wonder he took so long to come out!

Baby #2 was also born at home.  Things went a lot faster this time.  I knew I was in labor around 11:00pm and she was born at 1:30am.  My mom called our midwife, Matt got the pool ready, and I was laboring on the toilet, tailorsitting on the floor, hanging on people. . .  I couldn't wait for the pool to be ready!!  Finally, it was warm enough and full enough for me to get in.  Ahhhhhhhhh. . . .   instant relief!  My sister acted as my doula, and my sis-in-law was there to take care of Isaiah (then 2 years old).  Matt and I were in the pool.  My midwife would not tell me when to push.  She said I would tell them when it was time to push.  Suddenly, one contraction caused me to bear down!  I told my sis-in-law to wake up Isaiah.  He wanted us to wake him up for the birth.  She did.  She told him that the baby was coming.  He got up, unzipped his pajamas, and started taking off his diaper, and climbing in the pool!  My midwife said it was fine.  So, we let him in.  Within 6 minutes of the first pushing contraction, Ana was born into my own hands.  Matt was holding Isaiah, my sister was right outside the pool next to me.  With one hand on my sister's shoulder, and one hand on Ana's head, I told everyone when she was crowning, when her head was out, and brought her up out of the water when she was born.  She was pink and looked so little at 7lbs 4oz (2lbs less than her brother was!)