You may be wondering. . .

Silas - 1 month old

My sister, Julie, called me yesterday and wanted to know what would be happening with Silas now that we know he has hemophilia.  She asked some really good questions, and I thought some of you may be wondering about some things too. 

Q:  Is Silas getting bruises or bleeds yet?
A:  No.  Silas has no bruises.  Some of you may remember that Eli didn't get any bruises until those 2 hematomas showed up when he was 4 months old.  It is normal for hemophiliacs to have bruises (most always hematomas) all over just from normal life when they get more mobile.  These "superficial" bleeds do not need to be treated with factor, but bruising on a joint needs to be watched carefully as it may go into the joint. 

Q:  Is there ever any difference in severity levels?
A:  There are different levels of severity between hemophiliacs, but not within the same family.  My gene mutation is called 22 inversion.  That gene mutation is always severe hemophilia A.  Ana is a carrier like I am.  She bruises more easily, but she and I have another X that makes up for the hemo X.  Eli and Silas do not have another X.  So, they have severe hemophilia A, which means their bodies make <1% of clotting factor 8. 

Q:  When will he need to get factor?
A:  For the first year or year and a half of Silas's life, he will be receiving factor as needed.  For Eli, the first year included soft tissue bleeds in his cheeks (both sets ;o)  ) and worrisome head bumps (none turned out to be a head bleed). 

Q:  Will he be getting a port? and when?
A:  A port is not always a necessity; it is a choice.  We chose to get a port for Eli because we wanted to preserve his veins, and have an easy access in case of an emergency and a vein would be hard to find (dehydration, etc.)  We will probably get a port for Silas since it has worked out so well for Eli, but we will be making that final decision later.  He would get a port when he needs to begin prophylaxis.

Q:  When will he start prophylaxis?
A:  He will begin "prophy" when he is 18 months old or when he gets his first joint bleed.  Whichever happens first.

Q:  Are we doing anything extra to prevent bruises and bleeds?
A:  Yes.  He will start wearing a comfy cap when he starts spending more time on the floor (for 4 obvious reasons ;o)  ).  We bought a sleepy wrap because it is stronger and softer on him than a Maya Wrap or Moby Wrap.  We were not planning on letting him use the jumperoo, but some of my online hemo mom friends told me that they did not have any problems with the jumperoo at all and in fact, it helped their boys' legs get stronger.  Another mom suggested a product called Hugga-Bebe.  It is extra padding made for jumperoos and exersaucers.  It looks excellent, and Matt and I are looking into getting one and trying the jumperoo.  We will use knee pads and elbow pads to protect his joints, and pad his clothing.  By the way, an excellent company that makes padded clothing is Bruz Wear.  We have one pair of pants from them, and they're adorable!


I added a few more questions than Julie asked, but you may even have more.  Please ask anything in the comments section below.  We love to help people gain a better understanding of hemophilia.  Sometimes Blogger doesn't let people comment.  If that happens to you, let me know.  You can comment on facebook or email me at bubblewrappedbirth@yahoo.com

To My Husband with Much Love

Thank you, Honey. 

Thank you for being my best friend.  Thank you for your love and support through everything these last 9+ years. 

When we first found out about Faith, and then couldn't keep her, you held me together through all of that.  The worry, the confirmation that our tiny baby was no longer living, the pain, the hospital, the incredible grief. . .  We came through that together with God as our strength.

Thank you for 7 1/2 years of successful breastfeeding.  I couldn't have done it without you.  When Isaiah was born, and had trouble latching on, you never suggested I give up and just give him a bottle.  Those first nights of pumping colostrum and spoon feeding him every 2 hours were so hard, but you were so strong right with me.  You even rocked him between feedings so I could sleep.  A few days later when the roof of his mouth smoothed out and he nursed with no problem at all, it was a victory for all three of us.  We all worked very hard for that.  Also, you've always been very supportive through all the (often difficult) tandem nursing months and years with each of our 4 children. 

You love me through all my hormonal mood swings.  You always look at me like I'm the most beautiful girl in the world no matter if I'm a size 4 or I'm 8 months pregnant and no longer fitting into my maternity clothes because I've gained 50 or 60 lbs!  You are an excellent birth assistant.  If you are with me, I know everything will be ok.  Our births have been so amazing mostly because of you.  I could never have been so relaxed and at ease if you had not set that tone for me. 

You are such a great daddy.  I am so thankful our children have you.  No matter how busy you are, you make time for them.  You are a patient teacher and love them with the love of Jesus.  I love seeing you wear each of our babies in the sling or baby wrap.  You have become just as much of a breastfeeding, baby-wearing, gentle birthing advocate as I am, and sometimes even more than I am!   

I am so proud of you.  When Eli was diagnosed with severe hemophilia, a seed was planted in your heart, and now you are working very hard to earn your nursing degree so that you can help other children and families with bleeding disorders. 

I love how you love being a daddy.  You are even more baby crazy than I am!!  It doesn't even matter to you if we have more children with hemophilia.  On the possibility of having multiple little hemophiliacs, you just say, "Line 'em up!" (for infusions).  You just smile on the idea of caring for each child with their own unique needs. 

 As we anticipate the arrival of our fifth child any day now, I wanted you to have the spot light.  You are the greatest husband and daddy I've ever known.  I love you.  Thank you so much for everything. 

Love,                    

Me                  

Baby Carrier Issues with a Little Bruiser

If you follow this blog at all, you know that I am just a BIT excited about the new addition to our family expected very soon (38 weeks tomorrow!!).  There are so many things to thing about.  We are baby wearers.  Whenever we are out with baby, either I or my husband wears the baby in a sling/wrap.  We don't even invest in infant carseats.  We just start with the convertable carseat right away.  Carseats are for the CAR anyway, right?  ;o) 

Baby Eli in Maya Wrap

Eli all padded up in stroller

Well, when Eli (who has severe hemo A) was a baby, this wasn't so easy.  He would get bruises behind his knees where the edge of the sling pushed against his legs.  We had a wrap as well.  That worked better, but was so inconvenient to use.  Everytime we took him out, we had to totally rewrap it before we put him back in.  It was made of a heavy t-shirt material.  As a result, little Eli spent most outings in a stroller with sheepskin behind his knees.  If he wanted us, we just held him. 

I asked my other hemo mom friends about this on my facebook page for Bubble Wrapped Birth.  I got the same recommendation from a few different moms: The Sleepy Wrap!!   It is the same as the Moby Wrap we already have, but the material is lighter, softer, and a lot stronger.  Apparently, it doesn't stretch out, making rewrapping unecessary when you get baby out then back in.  I ordered one, and can't wait to try it out with Silas!  I don't know if he has hemophilia or not, of course, but either way I will post a review here in the next couple months. 

I can't wait! 

I can't wait!! 

I can't wait!!!