Now, let's talk about boo-boos.
One of the best ways to show your children they are special is in how you care for them when they are sick or hurt. In a family where half of the children have a severe bleeding disorder, it would be easy to give our children the impression that it's not so bad if one of the "non-affected" children gets hurt. If Malakai falls and hits his head, I scoop him up, cuddle him, comfort him, get an ice pack, kiss it and make it "all better". However, if Eli falls and hits his head I do all the above, plus call the HTC, set up for factor treatment, call Matt at work, treat Eli, and Matt comes home and takes him in to the ER for a CT scan. I've caught myself and my husband saying things like, "I'm so glad it was (non-affected child) and not (hemophiliac child)!" Although it's true that it is less dangerous for a child without hemophilia to get an injury, this shouldn't be the attitude, much less spoken.
Whether our child has a bleeding disorder or not, they need to be shown compassion, love, and loving care when they are hurt. Pain is pain even without a bleed.
Some great tools for boo-boo "tlc":
-basic first aid
-band-aids (even when not truly necessary. Besides, if you have prophy supplies, you have plenty of band-aids!!)
-special blanket or toy
-reading a book
-You know your child. What would be on your list?
I am not saying that we should baby every boo-boo. Obviously, there are levels of severity. My point is that each child needs to feel like Mommy and Daddy are sorry that THEY got hurt. They should never feel like it is a relief that it was "just them" and not their brother.